The more you
achieve in life, the more you have to lose. Duh!
Our first letter is from Imelda Cabangcalan.
Sheís got a man she doesnít wanna lose. Her
name has been changed to protect the innocent as
well as the not so innocent.
this guy. Heís an American. I met him at a
popular club in Makati. Itís a nice club. A lot
of us office girls go there. Okay, fine, Iím
afraid that he might have the wrong idea about me.
The night we met, there were a lot of, letís
say, easy girls mixing work with pleasure, if you
get my point. I had my sexiest outfit on that
night and NO, Iím not an easy girl. My problem
is that he might think that Iím one of those
easy girls! What should I do?
baby. Youíre armed and dangerous and youíre
worrying about whether heís gonna think youíre
a gun for hire. I take it you like wearing sexy
clothes and Iím not going to try to convince you to do otherwise here. So let's get straight to the solutions.
The first is the Really
Sly Solution, the second is the Straightforward
Solution and there are others. Read for
Really Sly Solution:
he were interested in women for sale, would you
still be interested in him? If not, then donít
do anything. Just wait. If he tries to give you a
monetary gift, dump him. Youíll know he goes
with women for hire and youíll be rid of one
more Ugly American
*. If he tries to give you another type
of gift then withhold your judgment. He might just
be one of those old fashioned guys who still
believes in treating a lady like a lady.
so you donít care if heís interested in women
for sale. You just want to make sure that he
doesnít think youíre for sale. Then tell him.
Say, Iím not for sale. If I like you Iíll go
with you to the ends of the world. If I donít,
my treasures will be locked up like Fort
Admit it. Youíre a phony. You normally donít
wear the type of clothing you were wearing that
night but you used them to attract your prey and
then you went in for the kill. Your victim was
helpless. You were mercenary in your approach and
Iím convinced youíll be successful if the
American you met is as docile
* as most "men" these days.
Maybe youíre even a dalagang
tigress *, a man-eater. Half a
heart is better than none so you litter the Makati
landscape with the pieces of broken hearts
youíve left behind. When you do get your man
heíll do everything you say and youíll think
youíre living happily ever after, as if. Repent!
Sweet and Innocent but still Sly Solution:
a wanna-be dalagang tigress but your heart is too
tender. You really are looking for love. Hereís
a way that you can deal with the situation.
Donít bring up the topic of "easy
girls." You donít want to plant an idea in
his head that heís never suspected. Maybe he
never even had such thoughts of you. Since
youíre not "one of those easy girls"
then youíll just have to let him find out. I
suggest the following:
sure that when he calls you on your cell phone
that he can hear your office mates in the
background. Shuffle some paper around. Give him
your office phone number. If you have a credit
card or ATM card make sure to use it in front of
him at least once. That way he'll know that you're not broke or looking for a free ticket to riches. Require that he drop you off at
your home after dates. Donít let him think
youíre able to take care of yourself after dark, after all,
youíre a Makati Girl, not a career jeepney
rider. Repeat, he should not be allowed to think that
youíre comfortable being out alone at night,
even if you are! Make
sure youíre never late if you have a nighttime
date. He might think youíre busy at
night! Thatís what you want to avoid. Wear your
office attire on the next few dates so that he can
get used to the fact that you really are a Makati
Girl and that you really do work in an office.
Invite him to lunch with some of your office
mates, just make sure you invite the ugliest ones.
You donít want to lose him now that heís
really interested in you as a Makati Girl and not
some plaything. Most of all; donít accept any
gifts from him for at least the first month. Yes,
I know Makati Girls love gifts but donít.
Youíll lose him forever and if you really want
him youíre going to have to keep him interested
even when heís out of the country. Good hunting!
lying to me. Youíre not even a Makati Girl. You
really want a date with me. You deliberately put
your perfume, email address, cell phone number and
the best time to call you on your letter. You even
included a full body picture. Call you later!